25 Cara Melupakan Bekas Anda

2024 Pengarang: Cecilia Ryder | [email protected]. Diubah suai terakhir: 2023-12-17 14:21

Perpecahan terluka. Tetapi apa yang lebih menyakitkan adalah berusaha mengingat semua janji yang anda buat satu sama lain yang kini masih tersebar seperti kepingan-kepingan yang hancur di sekeliling anda. Anda mungkin marah pada diri sendiri kerana begitu naif dan merasa seperti anda satu-satunya orang di dunia yang mengalami kesedihan ini. Tapi, teka apa? Kita semua telah berada di sana, melakukan itu.

Berurusan dengan perpisahan tidak mudah. Ia memerlukan banyak lem sihir untuk menyembuhkan patah hati, melupakan bekas kekasih anda, dan memudahkan anda mengatasi kesakitan. Berikut adalah 25 cara untuk beralih dari mantan anda dan kembali menjadi orang yang bahagia seperti dulu!

1. Beri Diri Sebentar Untuk Sembuh

Kesalahan terbesar yang dilakukan orang ketika berusaha meneruskannya adalah melakukan aktiviti yang merosakkan diri seperti berpesta yang agresif, minum yang tidak terkawal, dan perombakan gila. Walaupun tidak ada gunanya merenung apa yang sudah dilakukan, kadang-kadang, ada baiknya membuka dan menangis di atasnya.

Beri masa anda untuk sembuh. Mula bersenam dan makan dengan sihat. Kesan positifnya terhadap kesihatan mental anda hampir ajaib. Juga, kembalilah kepada hobi yang tidak pernah anda minati kerana sepanjang masa anda terbahagi antara jadual kerja dan hubungan anda.

2. Jangan Tegakkan Dia

Selepas putus cinta, anda mungkin akan terus bertanya-tanya apa yang dilakukan oleh mantan anda pada waktu tertentu sepanjang hari. Itu selalu ada di fikiran anda.

Dengan bantuan media sosial, sangat mudah untuk mengetahui lokasi mereka. Tetapi, mengejarnya hanya akan membuat anda lebih sedih dan membuat anda cemas. Cara terbaik untuk menangani perpisahan adalah dengan menjauhkan diri dari akaun media sosial mereka sehingga anda bersedia.

3. Jangan Luangkan Masa untuk Menghidupkan Semula Kenangan itu

Apa yang anda ada sangat indah. Adalah baik - walaupun sihat - untuk menghargai kenangan yang baik. Namun, itu bukan idea yang baik apabila anda baru sahaja menjalin hubungan.

Ketika berhubungan dengan hubungan yang beracun, mengingati bit yang baik hanya akan membuat anda terjebak pada masa lalu dan menghalang pertumbuhan anda.

4. Cuba Lihat Realiti

Walaupun awan kelabu gelap menutup kepala anda dengan kesedihan, cubalah mencari lapisan perak. Nampaknya akhir dunia hanyalah orang yang keluar dari hidup anda.

Mungkin ada yang terburuk, tetapi setelah anda melihat kenyataannya, ketahuilah bahawa anda boleh melakukannya dengan lebih baik. Fasa buruk mewujudkan peluang untuk anda membina masa depan yang lebih baik dan bahagia.

5. Pelajari Pelajaran Anda Dari Akhir

Setiap orang melakukan kesilapan, dan sangat penting untuk belajar daripadanya dan mencegahnya daripada berulang.

Orang datang dalam hidup anda untuk memberi anda pelajaran, dan seseorang yang ingin pergi tidak akan meninggalkan apa pun yang anda lakukan untuk menahannya. Anda mungkin memberikan seratus peratus diri anda kepada seseorang, tetapi tidak pernah kehilangan diri sepenuhnya kepada mereka.

6. Jangan Cari Alasan Untuk Menemuinya Lagi

Resisting the urge to “accidentally” bump into your ex can be challenging. You may think that a single meeting can get you both back together. However, darling, it’s time you realize what could not be mended in the full course of a relationship can never be settled in just one meeting.

A relationship is all about effort from both sides, and after it has died a painful death, there is no point trying to resuscitate it.

7. Do Not Be Harsh On Yourself

Stop blaming the whole world for your breakup. Face the fact that the person you are the most furious with is yourself. You hate yourself for trusting them so much, for being stupid enough not to understand their intentions.

You may want to find ways to punish yourself by indulging in self-destructive behaviors (like excessive drinking). However, you need to remember that everyone makes mistakes. All you need to do is wipe your tears and prevent your tiara from falling off, princess. You are more powerful than you know.

8. Do Not Try To Be Friends If You Still Have Feelings For Them

It is said that if you are friends with your ex after a breakup, you were never really in love then.

If you are trying to be friends with them just to keep seeing them after the breakup, it will hurt you more than you think. After a ship has sailed, it is pointless trying to turn it around. Friendship is a very special relationship and should not be used for ulterior motives.

9. Know What You Are Capable Of

You realize what you are actually made of only when you get the opportunity to prove yourself. Let the breakup help you grow, discover your inner self, and explore your potential. You will be surprised to know what you are capable of when you start living life to the fullest.

10. Try To Stay Positive And Indulge In A Healthy Activity

A situation like a breakup can make you weak at heart and unstable in mind, making you think of self-destruction. However, realizing that whatever happens, happens for the best can help you start a new beginning. Try to stay away from any negative thoughts that creep into your head. Practice yoga, exercise regularly, and eat healthy to keep your mind fresh for a new beginning.

11. Shopping

Being alone at home may cause stress and anxiety. How about doing something you like? Shopping is the way to go! Make a list of all the things you have always wanted to buy and pamper yourself. It could act as a reward for staying strong after the breakup.

12. Re-Decorate Your Space

An idle mind is a devil’s workshop. All that time you spend thinking of all the memories you shared with your ex Put it to good use. Re-decorate your room/home to create a new environment that you do not associate with them.

13. Go Out And See The World

Now is the perfect time to plan that solo trip you have always longed for. Traveling alone to new destinations can be the change of scenery your mind needs. It will make you realize that you don’t need anyone to make you happy except yourself.

14. Get Rid Of The Things That Remind You Of Him

Maybe you’ve saved the bus ticket from the first time you both traveled together, or his shirt that you snuggled with when you missed him. Well, now is the time to let go of not only his belongings but also the memories that you keep revisiting.

15. Cut All Communication Lines

If you think messaging him once in a while or drunk dialing him will do no harm, you are mistaken. Staying in touch with him will keep you trapped in the past and never let you move on. It is also a good idea to block his number, delete all his mails/texts, and burn his letters.

16. Avoid Asking About Them From Friends

Once you cut off all contact with your ex, you may try to get information about him from your mutual friends. Resist that urge. The idea is to stay away from him – physically, emotionally, and mentally.

17. Realize That Reel Life And Real Life Are Very Different

The entertainment industry makes us build castles in the air. Reel life and real life are often confused, and we expect things in our life to function as efficiently as in the books and movies.

When your life and – and more importantly, your relationship – does not work out that way, you tend to get depressed. It is important, especially after a breakup, to keep a realistic perspective and accept that sometimes things just don’t work out, and that’s okay! Because the ending of a bad relationship creates the space for new and better things to grow.

18. Spend Time With Your Family And Friends

Being alone after a breakup can lead to depression. In times like these, you stop trusting people. However, this is the perfect time to reconnect with the people in your life who will actually stick around no matter what. Spending time with your family and close friends can help you clear your mind and push the dark clouds away.

19. Take Time Out For Your Hobbies

Now is the ideal time to do all the things you did not have time for earlier because you were busy with your significant other. Be it pottery, softball, or coding – it will do you a whole lot of good to finally take time out for yourself and execute the projects that you have always had on your mind.

20. Accept It As A Part Of Your Life

This may feel like the end of the world, but know that you will rise again. A breakup makes you lose hope and retreat into your shell, never wanting to move on. However, it’s time to accept that heartbreak is a part of life. No matter how bad a situation feels today, nothing lasts forever. Eventually, everything goes back to normal. You just need to stay strong and withstand the storm.

21. Enjoy Your Own Company

Just because you love spending time with someone does not mean that you stop spending quality-time doing the things that you love. It is very important to pamper yourself and respect your free time. Charity begins at home, and loving yourself creates the foundation for loving others.

22. Do Not Hurt Yourself In Any Way

The easiest way to express your anger is to hurt yourself. Most people do so by cutting themselves or consuming copious amounts of alcohol or drugs. But, no pain seems to match the pain of your heartbreak. However, hurting yourself can make damage your self-esteem.

In times like these, you need to remember that you are an independent spirit who does not need to depend on anyone except yourself to survive. Being in a toxic relationship does not change who you are or diminish your worth. Believe in yourself and gather the strength to start afresh.

23. Forgive Yourself And Forget Your Ex

It is easy to say forgive and forget, especially when it comes to the person who broke your trust and dreams. However, forgiving your ex might be the key to letting go completely and being happy on your own. It may hurt you to see him with someone else. But, if you just focus on your life and creating a better future for yourself, you will end up wishing only happiness for your ex. It won’t even bother you if your paths cross again!

24. Do Not Date Until You Are Ready

Trying to move on forcefully may result in dating the wrong person again. Love is special, and a rebound should not be mistaken for love. The day you are able to love yourself for the person you are and forgive your ex is the day that you can open up your heart to love again and start dating.

25. Fall In Love With Yourself

Anda lebih istimewa daripada siapa sahaja yang dapat membuat anda merasa. Selesaikan sepanjang masa anda mengabaikan diri anda untuk memperhatikan mantan anda dan memanjakan diri sepenuhnya. Hubungan yang sihat dengan diri sendiri akan menjadikannya lebih mudah untuk terus maju dalam hidup.

Bahagian yang sangat penting untuk menjadi manusia adalah membuat kesilapan dan belajar dari mereka. Anda tersandung. Sekarang bangun, debu, masuk ke landasan, dan mula bergerak lagi. Anda bernilai setiap kebahagiaan, dan jika seseorang tidak dapat membuat anda merasa disayangi, lakukanlah sendiri. Jadilah permaisuri anda sendiri. Semoga anda jatuh cinta dengan diri anda lagi.

Adakah anda pernah mengalami sakit hati? Apa yang anda buat untuk mengatasi mantan anda? Kongsi pengalaman anda dengan kami di bahagian komen di bawah.